Finding the right person to settle down with can be a very frustrating game of chance. Even when you do find the “right” one, you still have the work of maintaining that relationship. If you’re looking for a little advice when it comes to love, you’re in the right place. Pull up a chair and read on for more.
According to cheatsheet/ health advice, “the best relationship advice I’ve ever gotten, and that I give, is “easy does it.” Too often we get caught up in fear-based needs to control our partner. Control corrodes
a relationship replacing respect and compassion with anger and resentment. Destroying the quality of our lives, but also the relationship as time moves. Allow for more space, which in return will both partners will receive less reactivity, more peace, happiness, and respect.”
Secondly give 90%, meaning it’s so important to think about how your boyfriend/girlfriend is feeling, to stand in their shoes, to be giving, compromising, and emotionally generous. The 10% is for yourself. Understanding it’s okay to be a bit selfish, to place your needs first, and to stand firm on something.
You’re responsible for your own happiness. Do not depend on someone to make you happy. Only you know personally what satisfies you. Of course it’s easy for you to be happy when your partner is acting the way you want. Needing them to be a certain way for you to feel good is bogus!
Those struggling to find a relationship, stop searching and live. Those struggling to find a relationship, live your life. You’re only in high school. My advice for these people is ask yourself what part of your own life needs work? When you clean up yourself you make a way for a perfectly, imperfect person to see you, celebrate you, and love you.
Loving yourself is key to a relationship. If you can’t love yourself how could you possibly love someone else? Learn the importance of caring for your mind, body, and spirit. Think of an oxygen mask on a plane -you must apply it to yourself before you can apply it to the person next to you.
You can’t put boundaries on someone else. Only yourself. If someone is treating you badly, you can’t change their behavior. You can ask yourself why you accept it and how you can put a boundary on yourself so that it won’t happen again. If you believe you’re undeserving of happiness, love, prosperity, you’ll never find it or receive it.
Sometimes love is where you least expect it. Enjoy each interaction for what it was and not for what it wasn’t. At the end of the day our life is a collage of memories. Thinking about that gives you the freedom to experience all life has to offer you.
In conclusion, time and energy are important in all relationships. Communication is key and if love is not what you receive you need to leave. Don’t drain yourself if you know you’re unhappy do not stay. Dating is a skill set like every other and you get out of it what you put into it.